What liberal child abuse looks like: the “genderless” child

What a birth announcement, eh?

“We’ve decided not to share Storm’s sex for now–a tribute to freedom and choice in place of limitation, a stand up to what the world could become in Storm’s lifetime (a more progressive place? …),”

So argues Storm’s mother, Kathy Witterick. What a gal. She belives she’s providing her two sons and one, um, it, an opportunity. 

There’s nothing ambiguous about the baby’s genitals. But as Stocker puts it: “If you really want to get to know someone, you don’t ask what’s between their legs.” So only the parents, their two other children (both boys), a close friend, and the two midwives who helped deliver the now 4-month-old baby know its gender. Even the grandparents have been left in the dark.

Fortunately, I can tell if a person is male or female sans asking “what’s between the legs,” but people don’t have that luxury with Wittrick’s two older boys, aged 5 and 2:

The couple’s other two children, Jazz and Kio, haven’t escaped their parents’ unconventional approach to parenting. Though they’re only 5 and 2, they’re allowed to pick out their own clothes in the boys and girls sections of stores and decide whether to cut their hair or let it grow.


Because Jazz and Kio wear pink and have long hair, they’re frequently assumed to be girls, according to Stocker. He said he and Witterick don’t correct people–they leave it to the kids to do it if they want to.

But Stocker and Witterick’s choices haven’t always made life easy for their kids. Though Jazz likes dressing as a girl, he doesn’t seem to want to be mistaken for one. He recently asked his mother to let the leaders of a nature center know that he’s a boy. And he chose not to attend a conventional school because of the questions about his gender. Asked whether that upsets him, Jazz nodded.

No, the boys haven’t escaped the parents’ damaging attitudes. And the boys–not the parents–will be the ones to suffer. In the eyes of the lefty parents, the suffering the boys have endured isn’t their fault–even though they could put a stop to it–but of society at large. But apparently the gender-less experiments suffering of the older two weren’t enough:

Stocker and Witterick say the decision gives Storm the freedom to choose who he or she wants to be. “What we noticed is that parents make so many choices for their children. It’s obnoxious,” adds Stocker, a teacher at an alternative school.

They say that kids receive messages from society that encourage them to fit into existing boxes, including with regard to gender. “We thought that if we delayed sharing that information, in this case hopefully, we might knock off a couple million of those messages by the time that Storm decides Storm would like to share,” says Witterick.

“In fact, in not telling the gender of my precious baby, I am saying to the world, ‘Please can you just let Storm discover for him/herself what s (he) wants to be?!.” she wrote in an email.

This poor kid. Gender is not a construct, despite what millions of über-liberals would have us believe. The parents aren’t allowing their kids choices, they’re imposing their notions of gender(lessness) on their children. And that isn’t a choice. From Salon:

The couple’s 5-year-old son, Jazz, “keeps his hair long, preferring to wear it in three braids,” his favorite color is pink and “he loves to paint his fingernails and wears a sparkly pink stud in one ear.” What’s more, the reporter describes a booklet Jazz wrote titled, “Gender Explorer.” Inside, it reads: “Help girls do boy things. Help boys do girl things. Let your kid be whoever they are!”

Besides the bad grammar, “gender explorer” isn’t innate behavior. It’s taught. And what kind of lesson is that?

UPDATE: Jazz Shaw at Hot Air takes exception with the name Jazz being used so freely. Visit to read the comment thread.

UPDATE: linked as a “Recommended Read” by Pundette. Thanks!


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  3. I too was amazed that my son made car noises when playing with his trucks. The only thing that is ever on the TV when he is awake is the occasional news program. At that time he never even watched so much as a movie that had cars in it. So where he got it from was beyond me. He just knew.

    What is his favorite movie now? Cars. He loves them. I have given him stuffed animals and never tried to discourage him from playing with his female cousin’s doll. He will do it on occassion with her, but much prefers cars and mud.

  4. wanted to share this blogger’s view too. she doesn’t pull any punches LOL


  5. These boys are doing what they can to please the most important people in their young lives, their parents. It is incredibly sad how the parents are abusing them emotionally in return.

  6. I heard about this. It’s sick and demented. On one hand I’m shocked, but then when I think about it, it doesn’t really shock. The lefties just see a different world and now they are trying to implement it. In a way this relates to same sex marriage. Gender for them is a malleable thing, not fixed. I feel sympathy for the children.

    • You’re right re malleable gender. I keep thinking of that Canadian man who was raised a girl after a botched circumcision. He was tormented his entire life because of the doctor who informed the parents that he’d never know that he was supposed to be a woman. But he did.

  7. I’m not sure how far they are going to get with that secret gender… errr… sex thing. I mean, one day the child will have to be potty trained.
    I am very lucky to have a girl and a boy, and absolutely amazed how different they are. It’s disgusting that this family is pushing their bizarre ideas about gender on their son.

    • What kills me is the implied “choice” when they’ve already “chosen” this for their kids. And you’re right about potty training, though I’m sure they’ll force some convoluted insanity to that process, too. Boys can sit! girls can stand! It’s all up to you!

  8. This is so very sad. They are insuring a life of misery for these boys. I like your point about “genderlessness” being just as much a construct as anything else, since they ascribe to the “there is no right and wrong if no one is hurt” maxim.

    Before I had kids, I was more apt to think along the “blank slate” lines, although nowhere near to the level of these progressives. I can remember thinking I’d never allow a girl to have Barbies (gee, wonder if that’s why God blessed me with boys LOL).

    My mom gave me Dobson’s book Bringing Up Boys while awaiting the arrival of my first, and that book opened my eyes on the issue of gender and our natural-born tendencies.

    I remember when older boy was 3, and we were at a playgroup. He was chasing a squealing and giggling group of girls, while gesturing emphatically with something in his hand.

    I truly didn’t understand what this gesture meant, or what he had in his hand that would make the girls run. So I asked what he had.

    He showed me a crayon and said, “it’s my gun!”


    This 3 year old had not been exposed to any particular gun knowledge or culture. We didn’t have any firearms at the time. No hunting. No adult TV. Where did he even pick it up? Who knows.

    The point is, he was born to do things that.

    He’s a boy.

    • Thanks.

      I had a friend who told similar stories. She was horrified her son (2 at the time, I think) would run up to a group of girls and squash the bug they cooed over. She took a class at church on raising boys using the Dobson book and was told he’s doing what boys are supposed to do.

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